Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about how much money I gave to the church over the years. How much I tithed, sowed, sacrificed, and “trusted God with my finances.” And I’ve come to a point where I know, deep down, that I’ll never give my money to the church again. Not because I’ve hardened…
Life’s Rhythm: The Ebb and Flow
Life doesn’t move in a straight line. Sometimes we feel like we’re making progress, riding high with everything falling into place. Other times, it feels like we’re pulling back, stepping away, or even losing ground. But just like the tides of the ocean, these moments of retreat aren’t signs of failure—they’re part of a natural…
When the Church Breaks You, Then Sells You Salvation
There’s a part of the brainwashing process that I read about that hit close to home. It said that once someone’s sense of self has been completely broken down — when they no longer trust their own mind or instincts — that’s when they’re most open to control. At that stage, the manipulator offers a…
Money & Me: Untangling the Shame of Financial Struggle
Money has never just been about numbers for me. It’s been about worth. Safety. Control. And sometimes—shame. There were seasons where I couldn’t make ends meet, where every text or call from the bank made my chest tighten. Times I avoided opening bills, not because I didn’t care, but because I felt completely overwhelmed. I’ve…
You Don’t Have to Prove Your Worth
You don’t have to earn love by being useful. You don’t have to perform kindness, shrink your needs, or constantly explain yourself to deserve care. This one hits deep, especially if you grew up feeling like love had conditions. Maybe you had to be the helper, the good girl, the peacemaker. Maybe you were praised…