There\u2019s nothing wrong with wanting to be held. To want rest. To want to be cared for.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I think somewhere along the way, we were taught that needing these things made us weak\u2014or worse, needy. That to be strong meant to always stand on our own. To want softness made us childish. To crave rest made us lazy. To ask to be cared for made us selfish or demanding. So we swallowed those needs. We learned to meet everyone else\u2019s, while quietly ignoring our own.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But the truth is: being human means needing connection. It means needing arms to fall into, a lap to cry in, a voice to say \u201cyou don\u2019t have to hold it all together today.\u201d It means wanting safety. It means needing warmth. That is not weakness. That is our wiring.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There is nothing shameful about wanting someone to hold you, physically or emotionally. There\u2019s nothing wrong with desiring peace, or longing to exhale into someone\u2019s care. There\u2019s nothing broken about wanting rest\u2014deep, nourishing, real rest that doesn\u2019t require you to earn it first.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The healing comes when we finally stop fighting those needs. When we stop trying to prove how unbothered we are. When we allow ourselves to want what we were taught to hide.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You don\u2019t have to always be the strong one. You don\u2019t have to always be the giver. You don\u2019t have to prove your independence by rejecting the comfort you quietly crave.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
There\u2019s nothing wrong with wanting to be held. In fact, it\u2019s one of the most natural things in the world. Let yourself want it. Let yourself receive it. You\u2019re allowed.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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