There\u2019s a strange pressure in parenting to always have the answers. To be the rock, the guide, the all-knowing figure. But the truth is, I don\u2019t have all the answers\u2014and I\u2019ve stopped pretending that I do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
When my child asks about life, or death, or fairness, or why people hurt each other, or what happens when we die\u2014I don\u2019t shut it down. I let the question land. I sit with it. And sometimes, I simply say, \u201cI don\u2019t know.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Because not knowing isn\u2019t weakness. It\u2019s honesty. It shows my children that they\u2019re allowed to be curious, to wonder, to explore big ideas without needing neat conclusions. It teaches them that uncertainty is part of being human. That asking questions is powerful\u2014even when the answers are messy or missing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I want my children to grow up unafraid of complexity. To know that truth isn\u2019t always simple, and that real understanding takes time, compassion, and openness. If I lied to them or pretended to be certain just to feel in control, I\u2019d rob them of the courage it takes to live fully awake in this world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So when my child comes to me with big feelings or big questions, I welcome them. I say, \u201cThat\u2019s a really good question.\u201d I say, \u201cWhat do you think?\u201d I say, \u201cLet\u2019s figure it out together.\u201d And I mean it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Because I\u2019m not raising followers. I\u2019m raising thinkers. Explorers. People who know that it\u2019s okay to not know\u2014and to keep asking anyway.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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