There was a time I thought being a parent meant shaping my children into something\u2014a version of what I\u2019d always hoped to be or what I thought would keep them safest. I carried dreams I didn\u2019t get to live out, and without meaning to, I placed them like little weights on their shoulders. Until I realized\u2026 children aren\u2019t born to fulfil our dreams. They\u2019re here to explore their own lives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
They\u2019re not here to fix what hurt in us. They\u2019re not here to bring us pride, or follow the path we think is best. They\u2019re not extensions of our identity. They are whole people from the very beginning\u2014curious, different, full of their own questions, and drawn toward their own answers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
My job isn\u2019t to hand them a life plan. It\u2019s to create space for them to discover who they are without fear. It\u2019s to notice what sparks their joy, even if it looks nothing like what I imagined. It\u2019s to listen more than I speak, and let their journey be messy, unpredictable, and uniquely theirs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That doesn\u2019t mean I step back completely. I\u2019m still their guide, their anchor, their safe place. But I\u2019ve let go of trying to steer them toward a version of success that belongs to me. Instead, I get to witness their unfolding\u2014and that\u2019s its own kind of beauty.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Parenting from a naturalist lens means honouring who they are as part of nature\u2014growing and changing just as they\u2019re meant to. Like trees in a wild forest, they don\u2019t all need to look the same to be strong and rooted. They need freedom. They need love. And they need to know they are enough, just as they are.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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